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  From:  Smoochies (SYLVIANE)   6/6/2002 11:06 pm  
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I have a question for any that think they might be able to help me. 
Well I have reason to believe that I am adopted. The reason being is because I found some court letters written to my parents they were confirming the adoption of me and my twin sister. 

Now....I don't have a very open family and we don;t express our feelings very well...we don't talk to each other about problems going on and I don't want to start. 

My other reason to suspect that I might have been adoption is because I remeember when I was eleven years old, I remember my mother telling me and my sister that another lady had us......When I was eight, I rmember her telling us the same thing. Now when my mother said these things, I never knew the meaning of the word adoption until I got into junior high. I knew my mother never wanted my and my sister to tell anyone.....everytime we would tell, she would say "don't tell people that because it is none of their business." 

I am a very sheltered child, my parents still baby me and think I am totally naive to certain things..... 

I was wondering is their anyway that I could get a copy of my birth certificate without my parents finiding out? I was wondering if I should call the guy that mailed the letters to my parents for more information? I mean my sisiter and I was born 1983, the adoption wasn't final according to the letter until 984. What is the best thing to do with out involving my parents?

SMOOCHIES 
  
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  From:  David (DavidABrown)    6/7/2002 9:37 am  
To:  Smoochies (SYLVIANE)   (2 of 4)  
 
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Hi Smoochies,

There is a forum here on Delphi called "Adoption Junction" it seems to be the leading forum regarding adoption issues.

Web tag 4Adoption

A friend of mine was adopted, I was over there looking for some resources for her, she is also trying to locate her birth mother. A while ago she filed some papers with the state and she just recently received a photocopy of her actual birth certificate and copies of some of the adoption papers.

I was surprised she was really able to piece together some information even though much the important information had been blocked out.

All the Best to you,

I'm really certain that Heaven will reveal much of our mysteries from here, so sooner or later God will give you complete understanding into your entire situation.

God Bless you,

David



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  From:  Smoochies (SYLVIANE)   6/7/2002 11:11 am  
To:  David (DavidABrown)    (3 of 4)  
 
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Thanks very much!! 
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   From:  123four   6/8/2002 8:17 pm  
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I know that some adoptive parents worry that their children won't love them anymore if they find out they are adopted. :) It's just a love things from parents. They worry that if the children do find out they are adopted that they will go meet the birth parent and they will not be close to the parents any longer who adopted them. They worry that it will somehow disrupt the lives of the children and their own lives. 
There is a guy who is on Oprah show once in a while who checks on these things and can find out in about 15 or 30 minutes most information. Cosst is about 100 or 200. Then there is a central 
agency in NYC that I believe is free, where you can send your info to and if the other party involved wants to, they can contact you. 

As David said, should be lots of info on the internet. Also, a good 
private detective might be able to find out, but it would cost more generally than the others mentioned. I don't know how many families 
that were reunited by this guy on Oprah. Maybe calling Oprah show, they would give you a name and phone number of this one guy. 

But, generally, there are no hard feelings on either biologicl parent not adoptive parents, after all is said and done. 

God bless you!
 
  
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